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"How to say stupid things about social media" by Cory Doctorow

The real value of Twitter et al is to keep the invisible lines of connection between us alive.

Cory Doctorow is a smart thinker. Sometimes opinionated, but then which thinker isn't?

I disagree with what he said about MySpace, though. It's just ugly. Because the "designers" don't know what they're doing. Like when Macintosh introduced the world to a dozen fonts and desktop publishing.

(Many people still don't know what they're doing - witness Comic Sans being used for anything but ugly comics.)

Also read Mike Elgan's piece on the twiviality of Twitter, and why it's good and right!
http://www.computerworld.com/s/article/9132104/In_defense_of_twiviality

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File this under "Told You So": Social networking leads to *more* socialising, not less! Can you imagine?

More people than ever will be living large parts of their lives online in 2010. Yet, those same people will also mingle, meet up, and congregate more often with other ‘warm bodies’ in the offline world.
In fact, social media and mobile communications are fueling a MASS MINGLING that defies virtually every cliché about diminished human interaction in our ‘online era’.

Social media is media. A medium is not a thing in itself but a means to a thing.

So why do people think that social networking would result in less relationships? People who get on the road are going to end up somewhere. It may not be where they thought; it might be a surprise. But all roads lead to destinations.

Social networking leads to socialising. Can you say, duh?

So, don't just sit there. Tweet something.

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Get a scalable ambition or get fried near the top.

Lately, I've been thinking about unsustainable ambition - and its antithesis. 

How high can you climb? How fast? Not too high, and not too fast. "Too", here, is open to individual interpretation. One man's overambition is another man's day job. (Applies to women, too.) 

"Too high, too fast" is determined by whom we might have left behind. Old friends don't know you anymore? Are you a stranger to your kids? Or, been meaning to have kids but don't have the time and money? Worse - do you not know who you are anymore? You've left yourself behind. You've gone too far. Your ambition is no longer sustainable. 

I'm thinking of people who climbed up the ladder on the fuel of ridiculous hours and unquestioning dedication. To continue up that ladder then requires more ridiculous hours and cult-like devotion. (Some companies think this is a good thing. They are led by false messiahs.) How far can these people go before their relationships - and then their bodies - break down? Will the company then swoop in like a white knight and restore them to health and healthy relationships? Or will they be unceremoniously replaced? 

You've got to have ambition. The antithesis of "unsustainable ambition" is not unsustainable lack of ambition. It is scalable ambition. Your ambition must be sustainable. It should promote healthy personal, social, familial, financial growth - success in all areas of your life - at the bottom rungs of the ladder as well as at the in-the-clouds top. Otherwise, you're on the wrong ladder. Have the courage to find another one. Or build another one (see http://alphalim.me/career-are-you-a-ladder-climber-or-are-you-a ). 

Your ambition has to be scalable, or you're going to burn out in a blaze of vainglory somewhere near the top. Entertaining fireworks for the rest of the world. Not so good news for you. That's my concern. 

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A letter to a friend from yesterday

I remember when we would sit together. We would chat about everything, we would chat about nothing. You dressed lighter, then. Maybe the burdens on your shoulders were lighter too.

 We understood each other well, you and me. The future was full of promise and everything seemed so right.

 And then everything changed. We hardly met, hardly saw each other. Hardly even knew each other anymore.

 You're dressed differently now. Where there was liberty, now there is armour. I'm dressed differently. Holes have started to appear. I guess what I want you to know is -

 It's 3 am, I'm having trouble sleeping and I don't count sheep.

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